Let’s face it; weddings have traditionally been the woman’s domain. Picking the perfect venue, spending a fortune on the perfect dress, the flowers, the lighting, the food – it’s all very much geared toward keeping the bride happy.
What about the groom?
Now, if you’re two brides getting married, this post won’t mean too much to you, but if you’re a bride and a groom (or a groom and a groom!) then this is the post you need!
It’s not just the stag do that men look forward to when it comes to weddings; it’s the day of the wedding itself!
If you’re thinking of just telling him where to turn up and what to wear, think again.
Men want to be involved. They want to help you plan your wedding as it is theirs, too. They like to see a vision on paper and they like to feel a sense of achievement at the end.
Men want to be able to look back and know they played their part, and this is the most important bit.
So for men, planning the perfect wedding is about being able to think of yourself as a partner in the whole thing and being able to put your stamp on things so that when you stand back later and reflect on it, you’ll be able to see that it was an event achieved by the both of you and that both of you have been able to put your stamp on it.
What Do They Need?
First and foremost, they need to be dressed for the part, right down to their underwear!
That’s why so many grooms are turning to bespoke tailors for their suits and formal wear. With some help from a professional, they can make sure that the suit will fit them perfectly (and be comfortable on the big day).
Your groom also needs a ring! Picking the right Rings for Men can be tricky, but there are lots of options on the market today.
The other thing your groom needs is a suit for the night: something smart but that is also somewhat turned down a bit for the evening reception after the ceremony. This can be bought off-the-peg at a major department store and can actually look more expensive than it is.
The groom should also think about footwear! If he’s wearing a formal suit, he’ll need to look good in his shoes, and if you’re going with the off-the-peg option then you can usually get away with it as long as they are good quality.
You have your bridesmaids and he will have his groomsmen. You will need to come up with a small group of people who are good friends and who can also be relied upon.
You and your groom should look at the size of the wedding party and consider the photos. If you’re planning on a big wedding, (i.e. three or more bridesmaids) then be sure that your groomsmen are able to fit in with them nicely. It’s best to go for equal numbers in the interest of a balanced photo.
Your groom’s groomsmen should help him get ready in the morning. They can help him with getting dressed and maybe calm some of those last-minute nerves!