The man-cave is that special place is the house that is solely dedicated to your husband and his manly pursuits. It is filled with all the things your husband enjoys; those things that may not be your cup of tea such as football and other sports, a well-stocked bar or any hobbies your husband might have that are unique to him. Sometimes, a man-cave can be useful just for spending some time on his own. It can greatly improve your relationship and marriage. Here are the 5 important things to remember about your husband’s man-cave.
First of all, you should find the right place to make your husband a man-cave and you both should agree on it. If you have a spare room in your house, it’s perfect. It’s better to let him use it instead of letting it lie idle. If you don’t have an entire spare room, than part of the garage will be just as great. Other good options are the attic, the basement or another construction close to the house. You can even build a shed if you can’t find anything proper.
It Is Not a Man-Cave If You’re There
The whole purpose of the man-cave is for your husband to be able to retreat and be on his own or with his male friends. If you are there, it is no longer a man-cave but just another room in the house. Discuss with your husband and make sure he understands that if you are not allowed in his man-cave this means that he has to be the one who cleans it up. You should also teach your children not to invade your husband’s man-cave, unless he invites them.
Let Your Husband Decorate It
This room is solely meant for him and it really doesn’t matter if you think the wall color is ugly or the table doesn’t blend in with the room décor. It is his space and he should choose how it looks and what he does in it.
However, you may occasionally be tempted to rearrange a few things here and there to make the man-cave a surprise for your husband but even if you do, keep in mind his preferences and don’t be offended if he changes the look of the room as soon as he sees it.
Resist the Temptation to Spy on His Man-Cave
Yes, you will probably wonder what he’s up to in there but don’t make a mistake of spying on him. The man-cave shows, more than anything else, that you trust him and are willing to give him enough space of his own. If anything, this is the only place where he can be all by himself and do whatever he wishes. Great marriages need trust and allowing him to have the man-cave shows you trust him. Don’t destroy that by trying to satisfy your wild curiosity.
Don’t be Upset That He Wants to Spend Time Away from You
This is important; the first thing you need to understand is that just because your husband craves for his own space and wants to be alone from time to time does not mean he doesn’t want to be with you anymore, neither does it mean he no longer enjoys your company. Admit it that since you had a lot more say in terms of deciding the interior décor of the house , it shouldn’t be so bad that he has a place he truly call his own.
The man-cave is very important for your husband and you should let him have it. Since you already command significant control over various sections of your house, it isn’t a bad idea if you let his man-cave be 100% about him.