Weddings and all that surround them can be incredibly stressful for all involved. The drive for perfection on your big day can mean you don’t actually enjoy it. Balancing your needs with the expectations of friends and family is also stressful. However, there are ways to make everything much easier on yourself, so here are five tips on planning your wedding stress free.
1. Know what you want
Deceptively simple, knowing what you want for your wedding can be tricky. You will want to set down a few things to start, venue, size and budget. Picking a venue can help to shape the rest of your plans, it will dictate size, so work out what you want as a couple. Once you have worked that out, you then need to work out the budget so you can select all those extra things like clothes, decorations and menus. Start simple and then work to minutia.
The best way to stop meddling relatives and friends, as well as giving you an easier time, is to give them a job. Ask someone to make sure the flowers are organised, get someone else to make sure food will be there on time, another on the cake delivery etc. etc. One important job to give out is for someone to collect and store gifts on the day. It will be the last thing you want to worry about at the time, so plan for it in advance.
Weddings can be very expensive, so creating and sticking to a budget can be difficult but is rewarding. The restrictions of a budget are worth the reduction in concerns about money later. That said, also work out what you are willing to be flexible on, are you willing to pay extra on the dress, or the venue or the food? What are you willing to downgrade to have it? This is connected to the first point, know what you want and go from there.
4. Remember Who the Wedding is For
That is you and your partner in case you ever forget. It is all too easy to start focusing on what other people want from your wedding. ‘You must invite..’ or ‘Well I think…’ and similar phrases will become familiar as you plan your
big day. Now there is no problem in listening to friends or family but don’t
let yourself be bullied into things you don’t want, not only could it ruin what
you wanted for your wedding but it can also damage your relationships. Just
practise politely refusing suggestions you aren’t interested in.
5. Have a Coordinator for the Big Day
Even if you do all the planning without a wedding planner having a coordinator for the day will save you a lot of hassle. They can help with keeping everything running smoothly, from making sure everything is on schedule to making sure everyone knows what they are doing. Remember this means you don’t have to do it. Whether you hire a professional or have a friend or family member do this, a coordinator can make your day that much more enjoyable.
These tips should help reduce the stress of getting to your wedding day, and help you enjoy it when it arrives. In the end the best advice is to keep everything simple.